few-good-sites.com
Search:    Site Home :> About Us :> Security & Privacy :> Terms of Use :> Place Your Link :> Add Article   
 
 

Why Didn't He Call?

Dating expert and columnist Lucia, replies to a reader as to why a guy she just started dating hasn' ... - Lucia Demasi
 

Conquering and Controlling Massive Locust Plagues

We have all heard the saying; Divide and Conquer, yet when it comes to one of the greatest threats w ... - Lance Winslow
 

2006 Trends in Coating

In 2005 the Coating Industry made many advances and scientific innovations. There were new coatings ... - Lance Winslow
 
 

Choosing to Die or Choosing Death by Robot

In the future thru life extension we will be able to choose when we die. There will be miracle drugs ... - Lance Winslow
 

Soul Mate - a Pain in the Neck

"and they lived happily ever after... That is how our favorite childhood fairytales have always ende ... - Nisandeh Neta
 
 

  Site Home › Teens & Kids › Peer Relationships
   
 

How to Win Friends and Influence People - Quickly and Easily

   
Author: Peter Murphy
 

Dale Carnegie famously pointed out that you can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

Although Dale Carnegie died in 1955, his work in personal development lives on. His classic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People was first published in 1937 and is considered the grandfather of all people skill books since then.

Because of his great understanding of human nature, his books and fundamental teachings are just as popular today. In fact, the title of his book is so widely used as a phrase, that some people who say it that may not even know where the phrase how to win friends and influence people comes from.

Here are his six principles in making people like you:

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.

I think weve all met someone that pretend to be interested in you but you can sense that they really arent. There doesnt seem to be anything genuine about these types of people. We tend to label them phoney. This is probably one case where fake it until you make wont work. So, how do you become genuinely interested in other people? Youll want to ask them questions. Learn what they do, what they like. Everyone likes to talk about him or herself. Get them to talk about their dreams!

2. Smile.

Not much to add, here. When you walk into a room with a smile on your face, you might as well be carrying a people magnet.

3. Use a persons name.

Remember that a persons name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. Just like in the old romantic movies: Oh, John... John! Oh, Mary, dear Mary!

4. Be a good listener.

Encourage others to talk about themselves. When you do this with a sincere and genuine interest in the other person you cannot fail to encourage that person to feel appreciated and valued. This is a key trait of anyone who has mastered people skills.

5. Talk in terms of the other persons interests.

Again, this principle stresses making time to listen to others to find out what is of interest to them. Let their interests guide the direction of the conversation and you will enjoy a solid rapport that encourages friendship.

6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

This cannot be faked for long. Look for the good in others and respect other viewpoints, beliefs and lifestyles. Even ones that do not make sense to you. This flexibility is important if you are to respect the other person.

His last three points, tie into the first. How to win friends and influence people is a book that reminds us that anything you do from a place of fellowship will have a good result. He uses this fable to prove his point:

The sun and the wind were arguing about who was the strongest. The wind pointed at an old man. The wind said that hed prove his strength by getting the man to remove his coat. He blew and howled and blew some more.

The old man clung to his coat more than ever. When the wind finally gave up, the sun came out from behind a cloud and shone brightly. Soon the man was wiping his forehead and removing his coat.

 
 
 

Related Articles

 
The Receiving End Of Unfaithfulness
 
How To Keep Your Husband
 
Abandoned Automobile Action Plan for Municipalities
 
Put an End to Emotional Terrorism in Your Relationships
 
Home Schooling - The Best Choice!
 
Rotor Blade Rings and Aero Dynamic Considerations
 
Victoria's Secret Disclosed!
 
Your Safety: Criminials in Russia
 
Nurturing Friendships
 
Calling All Single Parents! Why not Try Online Dating?
 
 
 
Get 3 way links
 
 

Education & Reference

 

Self Management

 

Creative Arts

 

News & Media

 

Internet & Computers

 

Technology & Science

 

Adventure & Sports

 

Property & Estate

 

Indoor Games

 

Teens & Kids

 

Business & Companies

 

Online Shopping

 

Travel & Vacation

 

People & Society

 

Investment & Finance

 

Policies & Law

 

Relationship & Lifestyle

 

Jobs & Careers

 

Drink & Food

 

Family & Home

 

Entertainment

 

Healthcare & Medicine

 

Vehicles & Automotive

 

Fitness & Health

 
Site Home :> Security & Privacy :> Terms of Use  
Copyright © www.few-good-sites.com - All Rights Reserved Worldwide.